Everywhere we turn it seems like there is advice on the do’s of dating, but never any advice on the dont’s. While we think it’s easy to avoid scaring off your date, it’s not always so cut and dry. With the ability to constantly communicate with your partner through social media and technology, the odds of dating mistakes seem to be more likely than ever before. Here are some pointers on things all women should avoid whether you’re casually dating or with a long-term beau!
- Don’t Play Detective
We hear it time and time again- the most important part of a relationship is being able to trust your partner. So why do you feel like you need to lunge for your partner’s phone the second he leaves it on the table? Chances are, no matter how much you convince yourself “he’s not the kind of guy” to cheat on you, deep down you believe something isn’t right. Whether you’re right or not, snooping through your partner’s personal possessions is never a good look. So unless you plan on being the crazy girlfriend that panics with every text tone, have some faith that your partner is being honest!
- Don’t Be Homebodies
Does Netflix and snacks sound like 90% of you and your boyfriend’s dates? While “Netflix and Chilling” is an easy (and cheap) way to spend time with each other, it shouldn’t be the only thing you do! One of the biggest dating mistakes all women make at some point is getting too comfortable in the relationship. That is, you and your partner aren’t really going out of your way to try new things and push each other to grow. If this rings a bell, make it a priority to try a new activity together at least once a month and watch as you get closer than ever!
- Don’t Hold Back on What You Want
One of the worst dating mistakes you can make from the get-go is not being vocal with your true thoughts. Even if they’re not what the other person might expect. Want a steak at dinner instead of a salad? Order the steak, girl! Don’t like it when your boyfriend texts at the table? Tell him to put the phone down! If you don’t speak up, you’ll harbor resentment towards the other person about small issues that grew out of control.
- Don’t Force Yourself to Adopt Their Interests
This dating mistake is one that begins with good intentions, but so often ends in disaster. Whether we want to accept it or not, there are some things in this world that we just don’t care about- football, Star Wars, and automotive detailing to name a few. And you know what? That’s okay! Not loving every single one of your partner’s hobbies is not a bad thing. In fact, it gives you a chance to focus on your own hobbies and personal development in the meantime.
- Don’t Hang On Too Long
This is a dating mistake that can be hard to hear, and even harder to fix. When feelings fade, it puts both people in a tough position. Knowing when to break things off is crucial to ending on good terms, which definitely makes the process of breaking up a less painful process. The one thing you should definitely not do is stay in the relationship because you feel obligated to. Deep down, you’ll know when it’s not going to work out and it’s up to you to act on it!
While it’s only human to make mistakes- these are some that all women should try their best to avoid. Playing the dating game isn’t easy, but you can always try your best to avoid making it harder!